Dating again after a broken heart
If you never want to experience a broken heart,” Norrington said, “eliminate all expectations from your relationships.” More than anything, people who are pained need to learn strategies for coping with the pain.
Because people can sometimes, “unrealistically expect or hope that life is all unicorns and roses,” said Marter.
Those feelings that the result from this crisis of self-esteem can drive people to say terrible things to themselves, to devalue themselves.
“Be mindful of self-talk, become rooted in the present moment, practice deep breathing and meditation,” advised Marter, who also said that, “practicing gratitude helps to shift perspective.” “When we are rooted in the present moment we feel our best.
Timing will vary from person to person, so instead let’s look at some key points to remember when getting back into the scene. The Representative is the person who shows up for the first 6-8 weeks of a new relationship. Of course new relationships are fun and exciting (note: The Rep), but YOU are also fun and exciting!
This is when we are bringing our A game, putting our best foot forward, and being the best partner possible. Take time to date yourself, travel, cross some items off your bucket list, reconnect with old friends, volunteer, visit family, etc…
Often people who are suffering from a broken heart tend to worry about the future or obsess over the past, and that’s where practicing mindfulness can be a helpful coping mechanism,” said Marter. Rest, eat nutritious foods, exercise to the point of sweat,” because the endorphins released through exercise will help.