Dating violence true stories of hurt and hope
And all of us can have blinders on when it comes to love."[An abusive partner] is probably not abusive at every moment of the day," Kaminsky says.
And reproductive coercion — tampering with your birth control or pressuring you to get pregnant — is another common abuse tactic, with 1 in 3 women in abusive relationships also experiencing reproductive abuse, and 1 in 8 women who aren't in otherwise abusive relationships reporting such coercion. If someone abuses you, it's an obvious decision to leave the relationship.
"Conversations about domestic violence always come back to, 'Why does the woman stay?
The TV movie picture of domestic violence is an out-of-control man flying into a fit of rage. "Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior in which one exerts power and control over another individual," Ray-Jones says.
"To use the phrase "He's out of control" isn't accurate.
Everything about this person is about control, actually.