The wingman walked up to me as his friend stood beside him and screamed over the music, “You’re perfect!
These include, but are not limited to, saying things such as “You’re [insert positive adjective] for a black girl! ”These may seem harmless to some, but they’re actually symptoms of deeper problems rooted in systematic oppressions that black women face daily.
So, in order to avoid some head and heartaches down the road for both parties, I’d like to offer white men some suggestions on how to best approach us.
This won’t apply to every black woman, but it wouldn’t hurt to infuse some intersectional feminism into your game.
Intersectionality would help because it’s an understanding that a person’s experiences are shaped by their gender, race, physical ability, and socioeconomic class, to name a few factors.
Most white men are unaware of the microaggressions towards their black partner that make their chances for a second date slim to none.