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We all know we shouldn’t date assholes and that a person who doesn’t accept you isn’t worth it, but when you’re really into someone and deciding if you’re going to tell them something you worry could jeopardize the relationship, those platitudes just aren’t that comforting. Without opening up and being willing to show who you really are, you’re cheating yourself out of an honest relationship, says Batterson.
Geralyn is a 27-year-old mental health counselor in Tampa who lives with bipolar disorder and generalized anxiety disorder.
Although she embraces these diagnoses as part of who she is, Geralyn definitely gets nervous about telling new partners.
“Then, he called me ‘crazy’ and told his friends and also people that I knew.” As if that weren’t bad enough, he would blame every disagreement they had afterward on her bipolar disorder. “Never date someone who is going to throw living with a mental health condition in your face, belittle you, or make you feel inadequate for it,” she says.
“That person is not for you, I promise.”“Remind yourself that this isn’t about being accepted or rejected,” adds Batterson.
Talking about struggles is a deep issue and a truth that deserves to be shared only when the person you’re dating is sharing deep issues of his or her own.